What advice would you give your 30 year old self?

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Michelle Kunz, Expert on Codependency, Love Addiction, and Relationships
I’m turning 53 next month. I’ve never felt happier, stronger, healthier in every way. I have the best relationship of my life now. My career feels like it’s finally mine. My confidence is at an all-time high. If I could go back and whisper into the ear of my 30-year-old self, this is what I would say:
  1. Leave that awful relationship that you think is so amazing. It’s not. Love isn’t what you’ve believed it to be. You need to do some work on yourself first before you’re going to figure out what love really is. Focus on loving yourself — really loving yourself — for a few years.
  2. The sex gets better after you figure out the love piece. Don’t settle, and don’t worry about it.
  3. While you’re focusing on self-love, remember to feed yourself as if your life depended on it. It does.
  4. And exercise matters, too. No kidding! Run. You actually don’t hate it. Yoga will change your life. Do it now.
  5. The people who are your friends are the ones you can be yourself around without much effort. Stop trying so hard.
  6. Decide what you’re passionate about and follow that without apology. Yes, you might have to have a JOB to pay your bills for a while, but don’t confuse that for a career. Don’t put much energy into that one. Just pay the bills. In the meantime, get super clear on what you want, and don’t compromise.
  7. Stop beating yourself up for what you don’t have, your “failures,” your imperfections. It’s all illusion anyway. None of this matters.
  8. Believe in something bigger than yourself. Get over your anger with God. You don’t have to be religious, but spiritual bankruptcy is killing you. Soften your heart. Open and receive. It’s a beautiful thing to be grateful.
  9. Feel all your feelings. Don’t run from your grief or your shame. Don’t wallow, but stop hiding. Face it all and let it pass through you. Stop clenching.
  10. Everyone is doing the best they can. This includes you, and it also includes all the people who have hurt or disappointed you. Let it go.

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